While I was bloghopping through Friendster this morning, I read an entry written by a young man from the Philippines. He spoke about his high school days and reflected on his lack of self-confidence.
The following is the comment I posted.
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I’ve read that all of us have at least THREE PERSONALITIES, three identities by which we are known.
We are:
(1)the person we believe we are
(2)the person we show to other people (friends, family, etc)
(3)the person people see in us
It is not unusual for us to be confused on who we truly are. But I believe that our "true selves" can be found inside us. It all starts from within. Whatever we believe of us is reflected by the way we act with other people, which in turn is how they get an impression on who they think we are.
Makes sense?
The lack of self-confidence and self-esteem is something a lot of us face on a daily and constant basis. Our emotions and actions are influenced by what people say about us, what people do to (and for) us, and what other people think of us.
You mentioned three things that describe you: silent, naive, and a coward.
Let me offer you some advice to turn your lack of self-confidence around. I was in a similar place a long time ago.
> I’ve learned that silence can be a positive thing and that being loud isn’t always an asset. Sometimes a person can talk and talk and talk without really saying much. Being silent doesn’t necessarily mean you have nothing to say. It can also mean that you’re only waiting for the right moment for your voice to be heard.
>I’ve learned that being naive is a result of our own lack of initiative. We cannot learn new things or get exposed to new ideas if we don’t allow ourselves to be in a position to absorb new information. My advice is for you to walk out of your "saftey zone" and immerse yourself in new ideas, emotions, and situations. Whether you learn anything from these new things is entirely up to you.
>To help cope with cowardice, you need to do some introspection and ask yourself what it is your afraid of, why it’s making you feel the way you do, and think about what you can do to fix it. By going to, as you say, "the root of it all" you will have a better understanding of the problem and have a clearer idea on how to go about and deal with it.
FORGIVE MY RATHER LONG REPLY. I just had to say something in response to your entry. To put quite simply: IT STRUCK A ROOT WITHIN ME.
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